Personal Growth

People’s Reactions Aren’t About You

Bookmarked The Art of Not Taking Things Personally – The Founder Coach by Dave Bailey (The Founder Coach)

When we encounter emotions and behaviours that don’t make sense to us, it’s often because we don’t have all the information. And in the absence of information, we tend to assume the worst. ‘Emotional…

And conversely, my reactions aren’t always about other people 😉

Negative emotions driven by unmet needs

Overreaction – may be related to transference (triggering an unresolved trauma from their childhood)

Anger > blame

Uncertainty > anxiety or doubt

Insecurity > avoidance

Unspoken expectations > mistrust

“When you notice a breakdown in trust, try to uncover the specific responsibility they want the other person to take, as well as the responsibilities they must take to rebuild the relationship.”

By Tracy Durnell

Writer and designer in the Seattle area. Freelance sustainability consultant. Reach me at She/her.

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