When we encounter emotions and behaviours that don’t make sense to us, it’s often because we don’t have all the information. And in the absence of information, we tend to assume the worst. ‘Emotional…
And conversely, my reactions aren’t always about other people 😉
Negative emotions driven by unmet needs
- Concept comes from Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
Overreaction – may be related to transference (triggering an unresolved trauma from their childhood)
Anger > blame
Uncertainty > anxiety or doubt
Insecurity > avoidance
Unspoken expectations > mistrust
“When you notice a breakdown in trust, try to uncover the specific responsibility they want the other person to take, as well as the responsibilities they must take to rebuild the relationship.”
