House Relationships

Don’t be the household expert

Liked Mum watched me correct my husband, then sagely warned me: ‘Don’t become the expert in the baby’ by Bridie Jabour (The Guardian)

But my mum told me, don’t become the expert.

Don’t correct your partner on how they change the baby or feed the baby, or whatever with the baby, because if you correct them then they will lose confidence and you both will become convinced that your way is the correct way.

Then you will go back to work and still be the expert. And the baby will go to school and you will still be the expert, the one who does everything for them, knows what foods they should eat, what the routines are, how everything should be done. The person who is always turned to.

I feel like this applies way beyond kids, to every aspect of running a household. Don’t take ownership unless you want to always own that task.

Plus, being able to let go of only doing things your way is a relief to your mental health 😊

By Tracy Durnell

Writer and designer in the Seattle area. Freelance sustainability consultant. Reach me at She/her.

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