Building Community

How can I build relationships and join in community during a pandemic?

Last updated 2023 March 18

Sub-questions

• How can I be a better friend?
• What does community look like?
• How much are relationships and community bound by geography?
• How can the Internet support healthy communities and relationships?

Bookshelf

Related books I’ve read since 2021. Links go to my book review.

We Should Get Together
👍👍
by Kat Vellos
(non-fiction, friendship)
Black author

Seek You 👍👍
by Kristen Radtke
(graphic novel, non-fiction)

Frientimacy 👍👍
by Shasta Nelson
(self-help, friendship)

Be My Guest
by Priya Basil
(non-fiction, essay)
Asian author, atheist author

The Art of Showing Up
👍👍
by Rachel Wilkerson Miller
(non-fiction, self-help)

Webinars

• Romance and Apocalypse
• Flights of Foundry: Optimism and Utopia in Science Fiction

Articles

Articles or longer responses I’ve written.

What do Places give us?

Defending against abuse, violence, and viewpoints of hatred

Building a Safe Community

An Anchor for Community

Dreaming, and Choosing, a Better Future

We Need Public Spaces Online

Notes

Bookmarks and quotes from articles I’ve read.

• Allow room for allies to make mistakes — because we all make them
• Compassionate Systems
• Interrogating gentrification
• Article pairing: vigilante NIMBYism
• Geek Social Fallacies
• Scenius recognizes network effect on creativity
• Shared Goods Versus Owning Your Own
• Three Types of Shaping Our Communities
• Virtual Gathering Space in Real Time
• Learning to live in community
• Who do you give power over your time?
• Which online bar do you want to hang out at?
• The value of friction
• Communities Don’t Unite for Manmade Disasters
• The Feed vs Community
• Discord, the Internet’s Third Place
• Stress response
• Half your friends change over seven years