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Say what you want

Liked 10 Steps to Becoming Annoyingly Capable by Jessica Hagy (This Week’s Top Ten)

Make your allies proud & your haters butthurt.

STEP 3: Talk about what you want. Don’t assume anybody knows what you’re after until you articulate it.

Good business and life advice: don’t expect anyone to read your mind. Say what it is you want.

IIRC We Should Get Together or Frientimacy talked about this in friendships specifically.

STEP 4: Leave what you know. There are no awesome gigs to take in The Shire.

A good reminder for me right now 😉


The first book in a successful series

Liked Planning a Series by Zoe YorkZoe York (

Rule #1: Make the first book the most universally enjoyable trope possible from your list of ideas.


Reveal character and set vibes with place description

Bookmarked Know Your Place by KJ Charles (

It’s ideal if your writing is trying to do two for the price of one. If your description both conveys the surroundings/place and reflects the viewpoint character’s mood, you’ve got a better chance of keeping the description-skippers engaged while saying what you need to convey.

No one wants to read a paragraph of description so slide it in other spots or give it strong vibes to set mood and tell you how it makes the character feel

pathetic fallacy—loading your description with your character’s feelings

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Live in fullscreen mode

Bookmarked 5 Ways to Simplify Your Life – zen habits by Leo Baubata (zen habits)

Curate your day.
Start living in fullscreen mode.
Weekly clearing ritual.
Eat simple foods & move.
Slow down & enjoy quietude.

Doing one thing at a time – I was thinking recently maybe if I let myself not always be doing chores while I’m cooking or waiting for the kettle to boil or whatever I could let myself rest. I’m too focused on maximizing every minute 🤷‍♀️

I also like his approach to planning a day: “What handful of things would make your day amazing?” For most days:

  • Getting enough sleep
  • Enjoying a cup of tea
  • Avocado toast (or other delicious breakfast)
  • Reading a book
  • Hanging out with friends or my husband
  • Finding some new music
  • Making progress on my book
  • Learning something new

I live a pretty simple life already and try to keep it that way 🤷‍♀️


Read Writing the Other

Read Writing the Other

During the 1992 Clarion West Writers Workshop attended by Nisi Shawl and Cynthia Ward, one of the students expressed the opinion that it is a mistake to write about people of ethnic backgrounds different from your own because you might get it wrong, horribly, offensively wrong, and so it is better not even to try. This opinion, commonplace among published as well as aspiring writers, struck Nisi as taking the easy way out and spurred her to write an essay addressing the problem of how to write about characters marked by racial and ethnic differences. In the course of writing the essay, however, she realized that similar problems arise when writers try to create characters whose gender, sexual preference, and age differ significantly from their own. Nisi and Cynthia collaborated to develop a workshop that addresses these problems with the aim of both increasing writers’ skill and sensitivity in portraying difference in their fiction as well as allaying their anxieties about ”getting it wrong.” Writing the Other: A Practical Approach is the manual that grew out of their workshop. It discusses basic aspects of characterization and offers elementary techniques, practical exercises, and examples for helping writers create richer and more accurate characters with ”differences.”

This book had some interesting framing and specific writing advice on what and what not to do. A fair amount of the content was pretty basic level, so anyone who’s done any reading about writing people from other backgrounds will be familiar with many of the ideas. I didn’t do the exercises, which didn’t sound that helpful to me, but then I hate writing exercises 😉

ROAARS are the main categories that define and divide us:

  • Race
  • Orientation
  • Ability
  • Age
  • Religion
  • Sex

The unmarked state” = without explicit markers, readers often envision a character to be white, male, cis, straight, young and able -bodied

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Things to Remember and Try in 2022

To Remember

“Problems persist until you claim them…”Derek Sivers, How to Live

“Indecision keeps you shallow.”Derek Sivers, How to Live

Listen to and trust my feelings – what message is this feeling telling me? – Frientimacy by Shasta Nelson

“Not hurting your own feelings means making the choice to stop spending valuable time and energy pissing yourself off.”The Art of Showing Up by Rachel Wilkerson Miller

Worry, at its core, is the repetitious experience of a mind attempting to generate a feeling of security…” – Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman

Ideas To Consider Trying


  • Decide in advance what to fail at Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
  • Set incremental goals that are within my control, achievable soon, and positive – Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski
  • Sometimes quitting is the right answerBurnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski
  • “Give moments meaning to remember them. Take away meaning to forget.”Derek Sivers, How to Live
  • Take the good days for yourself – Seth Godin


  • Daily tracking: physical symptoms, feelings, daily behaviors that affect how I feel physically and emotionally – The Art of Showing Up by Rachel Wilkerson Miller
  • Spend half an hour outside most days – The Art of Showing Up by Rachel Wilkerson Miller
  • Use kanban approach of two to-do lists, one open and one closed. – Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
  • “Establish predetermined time boundaries for your daily work” – Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
  • Use creative restrictions to spark creativity and get unstuck – Your Music and People by Derek Sivers
  • Write recipes on index cards for choosing dinner – The Queen of Distraction by Terry Matlen
  • Personal capacity check ins
  • Choose the day’s highlight at the start of the day
  • Bundle temptation into less desirable tasks – Indistractable by Nir Eyal

Questions to ask before writing about other cultures

Bookmarked How to Unlearn Everything by Alexander Chee (Vulture)

“Do you have any advice for writing about people who do not look like you?” … Given all the excellent writing about the challenges of rendering otherness, someone who asks this question in 2019 probably has not done the reading. But the question is a Trojan horse, posing as reasonable artistic discourse when, in fact, many writers are not really asking for advice — they are asking if it is okay to find a way to continue as they have. They don’t want an answer; they want permission. Which is why all that excellent writing advice has failed to stop the question thus far.

In general, the beginner fiction that writers produce is what they think a story looks like. Those stories are often not really stories — they are ways of performing their relationship to power.

  • Why do you want to write from this character’s point of view?
  • Do you read writers from this community currently?
  • Why do you want to tell this story?

So when I meet with those beginner students to discuss their first stories, I ask them to think of stories only they can write. Stories they know but have never read anywhere. Stories they always tell but never write down.

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Read You Are Here *For Now

Read You Are Here (for Now)

When life feels uncertain, or just plain out of control, making intentional choices can help us move forward and find our way. Sometimes all it takes is a gentle nudge, but for anyone waiting for that big, obvious sign from the universe: This is it!

This candid collection of essays and artwork is full of reflections, encouragement, and insights on the theme of personal transformation–realistic perspectives to help you move from “staying alive” to nurturing and celebrating the person you know you really are.

From the generous and slightly jaded mind of artist Adam J. Kurtz, these pages explore mental health, identity, handling setbacks, and finding humor in the unknown–and will be a touchstone for seekers, graduates, creatives, and anyone who’s trying to figure out what’s next (and maybe even feel a little hopeful about it).

Really liked the photo / handwriting features in between each essay. They follow his usual down-to-earth optimistic-from-past-depression style. I enjoyed them all, but spread the reading out over a month and wish I’d read it more closely together.


Read How to Live

Read How to Live | Derek Sivers

I didn’t like this at first, till I realized the point is to rile you up with viewpoints taken to extremes to help you realize what you think. In almost all, even the ones I strongly disagreed with, there was a kernel of truth. And it made me look more carefully at the ones I did agree more with, thinking about what was extreme about this viewpoint, and what isn’t helpful about it.

Key Notes

Emphasis mine.

“Never agree with anything the same day you hear it, because some ideas are persuasively hypnotic. Wait a few days to decide what you really think. Don’t let ideas into your head or heart without your permission.

“Indecision keeps you shallow.”

“We treat the future like a garbage dump.”

Never make a story for the things you want to forget. Let those disappear with time.”

“How you feel about anything is based on how you look back at it. Your memory is influenced by how you feel now… Give moments meaning to remember them. Take away meaning to forget.”

“Improvement is transformation.”

“Problems persist until you claim them and solve them.”

“Plans are just predictions about what you might want in the future.”

Ignore all marketing and advertising. Nobody is pushing what really matters. Friendships, nature, family, learning, community. The best things in life aren’t things.” My thoughts.

“Shallow happy serves the present. Deep happy serves the future. Shallow happy is trying to conquer the world. Deep happy is conquering yourself.”

“The world needs more boldness.”

You aren’t supposed to be easy to explain.” Reducible to salable data profiles for advertisers, or archetypes in the story someone wants to tell about you.

“You’re an ongoing event — a daily improvisation — responding to the situation of the moment.”

“Your past is not your future. Whatever happened before has nothing at all to do with what happens next… Never believe a story.” (At least not one that’s holding you back.)

“Creating is a higher form of communicating. You join the elite conversation by contributing. You reference creations from the past to make your own unique addition or combination. The dialog can span centuries.” The Long Now.

“It’s not a revolution if nobody loses… When the bad people are mad, you’re doing it right.”

How you react to situations: “Do you tend to change yourself, change the environment, or change nothing and leave?”