House Lifestyle

Coziness comes from life


[C]oziness comes not from what you *put* in your space, but [how] you *live* in your space…

Coziness is about intimacy, but we don’t often think about intimacy when decorating our homes. Truly cozy spaces in a family home are ones where we feel drawn to be together, to be so close that we can feel the warmth of each others’ bodies.

I’ve been annoyed that even over the past ten years of living here, my living room does not feel cozy or inviting, no matter how many throw pillows and blankets I add. And I think she’s onto something here with her description of “rhythms of coziness”: using the space makes it become cozy. We spend almost no time in our living room, so we don’t really have memories or rituals in the space, and the accessories of life and comfort don’t make their way there.

Scale is another tricky element — with only two people, we’re floating around in too much space, and the raised ceiling looks pretty but feels less human scale.


Office temperature does make a difference

Bookmarked Battle for the thermostat: Gender and the effect of temperature on cognitive performance (

At higher temperatures, women perform better on a math and verbal task while the reverse effect is observed for men. The increase in female performance in response to higher temperature is significantly larger and more precisely estimated than the corresponding decrease in male performance.

Our findings suggest that gender mixed workplaces may be able to increase productivity by setting the thermostat higher than current standards.

😂 It makes me happy someone has legit looked into this.

Another option: for jobs it’s possible, let people keep working from home where we aren’t in physical discomfort for eight hours a day 😉


When your space feels off

Bookmarked Fix your home’s funky energy with these 3 tips – The Aesthetics of Joy by Ingrid Fetell Lee by Ingrid Fettell Lee (The Aesthetics of Joy by Ingrid Fetell Lee)

The physical objects in our environment affect us, often without being obvious. If your space feels “off” try these 3 tips to change the vibe.

I think this is my house’s problem: there isn’t a heart, a space anyone wants to be. We spend most of our time upstairs in our offices or bedroom. We have a living room and a reading nook area downstairs, but spend very little time there. Maybe it’s just that we do a lot of stuff on our computers, but I do plenty of reading so I don’t think it’s that.

I’ve tried adding blankets and pillows, and it’s decorated with art I love. I’ve tried furniture in various configurations. But, for the most part, we’d rather be upstairs. Could be the lighting. Could be the high ceiling. Could be that it’s cooler than upstairs. Could be the big windows that make you feel a little exposed (though they’re now covered with curtains 🤔).

I’m tempted to hire a professional to help me make the house feel cozier – it’d be nice to actually use the rooms in our house 🤷‍♀️ But I imagine I’m too cheap 😅 I keep thinking, well, maybe I try a few more things first myself, but that’s probably just wasting my money on the wrong stuff.

I think part of my problem is I’m buying things based on how they look, and then they don’t work as well as I’d like or aren’t that comfortable. The stuff I have mostly looks nice  – except for the coffee table I hate and have been wanting to get rid of for the whole pandemic but haven’t wanted strangers in the house. I’ll feel dumb if replacing the coffee table is enough to change the feel of the room 😅

Somehow we’ve been in this house for eight years, putting up with a bunch of crappy spaces we don’t like. After being mostly cooped up in here for two years, and who knows how much longer, I’m really sick of not feeling at home in my home.