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Mental Health

Live as though you’ve already solved your problems

Quoted

Another one for the act like you want to be / feel:

‘If I had high self-esteem, how would I look, talk, act, and behave?’ Write it out and begin everything now.

Satchell Drakes via Dense Discovery

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Entrepreneurship Getting Shit Done Personal Growth

Read Hell Yeah or No

Read Hell Yeah or No by Derek Sivers

thoughts around what’s worth doing, fixing faulty thinking, and making things happen

I took my time reading this intentionally and unintentionally. I pre-ordered the ebook when it came out last summer and started reading a bit at a time, but Kindle hardware makes it really hard to access books you didn’t buy through Amazon’s website, so I forgot about it for a while. Then the hardcover came and I started reading it chunk by chunk with a pencil in hand.

Sivers writes these very concise essays that beautifully get to the point in a page, page and a half. That takes skill, to distill lessons and storytelling to such short clips, yet still have valuable things to say, not just aphorisms or repeating the same old thing.

I admire the philosophy behind the book: it is designed for maximum sharing. He sells it for a one-time content charge, then only charges cost on any future paper copies you buy. Each essay in the book includes a short URL so you can share individual essays.

I might have put some of the essays in a different order, myself, to keep similar topics directly adjacent, but many pieces did complement each other well.

Key messages to remember:

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Society

Fabulous Villainesses We Want to Be Like

Liked In Defense of Villainesses by Sarah GaileySarah Gailey (tor.com)

She’s fabulous.
Her hair is done. Her makeup is flawless; her coat, luxurious. She’s single. She’s thin or she’s fat or she’s muscular or she’s old or she’s young but she’s never ever cute or soft or scared of you.
She’s hungry. She wants money, and she wants more luxurious coats, …

We look at thin-wristed shy-smiling nice-haired female protagonists and we see what’s expected of us: wait. Be patient. Be nice. Be happy with your lot, enjoy what you’re given, and don’t look for more. Make wishes, not plans. Have animal friends, never henchmen. No one should work for you, but everyone must love you. Look soft and small and breakable, and cry with your head flung into your arms so no one has to see your puffy eyes. Be afraid that no one will ever rescue you. Be afraid that you’ll have to live your whole life without adventure ever finding you.

We’re sold on the female protagonists, and I do mean sold. We admire their spunk and their tenacity, because it’s accessible—it’s rebellion in the form of wanting. It’s gazing at the stars at night after spending all day scrubbing the floors, and believing that wishing will be enough.