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Read Notes on a Nervous Planet

Read Notes on a Nervous Planet by Matt Haig

The societies we live in are increasingly making our minds ill, making it feel as though the way we live is engineered to make us unhappy. When Matt Haig developed panic disorder, anxiety, and depression as an adult, it took him a long time to work out the ways the external world could impact his mental health in both positive and negative ways. Notes on a Nervous Planet collects his observations, taking a look at how the various social, commercial and technological “advancements” that have created the world we now live in can actually hinder our happiness. Haig examines everything from broader phenomena like inequality, social media, and the news; to things closer to our daily lives, like how we sleep, how we exercise, and even the distinction we draw between our minds and our bodies.

Very casual writing style, like a collection of blog posts (even listicles 😂). I don’t have as much trouble as he does with phone use, but can relate to the overall overwhelming information intake of the internet and the constant marketing pressures. Enjoyed reading through this slowly. Complementary to Oliver Burkeman’s Four Thousand Weeks.

Resources and Reference Writing

Writing and Self Publishing Resources

Updated 2/6/2023

Also see: Self Publishing Guides

General Writing

Reddit Genre Subreddits

Reddit Subreddits for Writers

Writing Subreddits

Writer Sanctum Forum

Reverse Thesaurus Lookup <– this looks very handy

(Via) Writers Helping Writers Thesaurus Series (Free) is a series of entries relating to different elements of writing, like settings, emotional wounds, personality traits, and occupations. These are links to their free sample pages and listed in alphabetical order:

Self Publishing






Book Editing Services

IPEd – Find an Editor

Word Frequency Counter







SFR Station

Markets, Outside Media, and Trends from eroticauthors

Consider things that romance readers fantasize about.

Security (financial or otherwise). Being loved. Being wanted by someone they desire. Helping to heal someone who seems broken, or having someone help them when they feel broken. New experiences, new settings, the excitement of the unfamiliar.

Glossary of romance terms

Marketing + Self Promo

[Announcement] — Saturdays are now officially self-promo Saturdays. It has worked out pretty well, so if you have something you want to share, do it on Saturday. from scifi

Basic Social Media Marketing for Authors from RomanceWriters

Marketing SFF (romance tag)

Authors on Social Media: Choosing Platforms & Avoiding Burnout

Starting From Zero • Resources Page

The Very Best Book Promotion Sites in 2023

Distributing ARCs



Hidden Gems ARCs – romance books 6+ months out


Bookbrush – social media graphics tool

BkLNK – can look up Amazon categories and sales rank for any book by ASIN / ISBN


Attended How to Get People Wildly Obsessed with Your Work

RSVPed Attending How to Get People Wildly Obsessed with Your Work

Alas, not super helpful. More setting the foundation for signing up for her course — arguing that we’re thinking about things the wrong way, and we need to flip our perspective to focus on building connection — but nothing about how to build connection. Or, as the title advertised, get people really into your work.

Key takeaways:

  • puttering away on your own work in your quiet little space out of the way feels like the nice thing to do
  • when people aren’t coming, it’s not that the work isn’t good, it’s that you aren’t allowing people in
  • your work is powerful to your audience because you want to change the cultural conversation and build connection

I think I’m done with these free workshops / course sales pitches for a while. They feel too much like those timeshare deals where you get a free / discounted stay but have to go to the sales pitch. I understand that folks can’t give away everything but it’s frustrating when it feels like you got nothing tangible out of your time, that the answer to how to get people into your work (or fill in the blank) is to join their course. All the success stories were not about how people built an audience, but how they made more work.

Sometimes cynical me gets this feeling, from seeing many creatives offering workshops and classes, that succeeding financially in the creative field is a MLM scheme where you tell other creatives how to sell their work but where you’re making your money is in selling things to creatives. And I say this as someone who’s potentially interested in turning the free planning guide I created for creative types into a published planner. I want to help people, and think I have some useful things to say, but also see it as a market that people are willing to spend in. I read a lot in the “self help” sphere, so I do see value there. But it makes me question how financially successful creative work can realistically be alone, when it seems like a lot of times where the money comes from is eager self-funded creatives lower in the experience ladder.


Telling your story as an entrepreneur

Bookmarked Get More Attention For Your Creations By Telling Your Three Stories – For The Interested by Josh Spector (For The Interested)

The secret to successful promotion is to tell your story. Stories are powerful. Their unique combination of information and emotional hooks are the reason they’ve been around for thousands of years and are constantly passed on from generation to generation.

  • Tell The Story Of Where You’ve Been
  • Tell The Story Of Where You’re At
  • Tell The Story Of Where You’re Going