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Read Indistractable

Read Indistractable by Nir Eyal

You sit down at your desk to work on an important project, but a notification on your phone interrupts your morning. Later, as you’re about to get back to work, a colleague taps you on the shoulder to chat. At home, screens get in the way of quality time with your family. Another day goes by, and once again, your most important personal and professional goals are put on hold.

What would be possible if you followed through on your best intentions? What could you accomplish if you could stay focused and overcome distractions? What if you had the power to become “indistractable”?

International best-selling author, former Stanford lecturer, and behavioral design expert, Nir Eyal, wrote Silicon Valley’s handbook for making technology habit-forming. Five years after publishing Hooked, Eyal reveals distraction’s Achilles’ heel in his groundbreaking new book.

In Indistractable, Eyal reveals the hidden psychology driving us to distraction. He describes why solving the problem is not as simple as swearing off our devices: Abstinence is impractical and often makes us want more.

Eyal lays bare the secret of finally doing what you say you will do with a four-step, research-backed model. Indistractable reveals the key to getting the best out of technology, without letting it get the best of us.

A quick read with a useful approach to countering distraction. I agree with the author that we like to blame the thing that distracts us; to overcome distraction, we have to face the root of our distraction — basically, discomfort. He breaks his approach into four chunks:

  1. Internal triggers
  2. External triggers
  3. Make opportunities for traction
  4. Prevent distraction with pacts

This book is broken into parts composed of very short, focused chapters, each closing with a bulleted list of key takeaways. I think I liked the format? But sometimes the brevity of the chapters left them feeling hollow of content.

I skipped the section on kids and some of the work chapters.

Personal Growth

Avoidance through Self-Aggression

Quoted Already Free (

In Already Free, therapist and Buddhist practitioner Bruce Tift examines how psychotherapy’s “Developmental” approach of understanding the way our childhood experiences shape our adult selves both challenges and supports the “Fruitional” approach of Buddhism, which tells us that the freedom we seek is always available.

“Our self-aggression is not just a relic from the past; it’s something we choose to reinvest in, over and over, every moment. We actually maintain a practice, with great effort, of being aggressive toward who we find ourselves to be. If we can become curious about the function this serves, if we invite greater awareness, then we might find that we can work with our issues much more skillfully and kindly… Claiming that we are problematic means we don’t have to engage with our lives fully, because we aren’t ‘ready yet’ — there’s something wrong that needs to be fixed first. [So] we have a good excuse to not show up. And it turns out that really showing up—being fully present, embodied, openhearted—is often a very intense experience. Having a complaint also gives us an explanation for our difficult experience—and if there’s a cause, there should be a solution. ‘I should be able to have the life without disturbance that I deserve once this unfair problem is cleaned up.’ It allows us to continue our disengagement indefinitely, since there will always be some unfair problem in our lives” – Bruce Tift


Read How to Live

Read How to Live | Derek Sivers

I didn’t like this at first, till I realized the point is to rile you up with viewpoints taken to extremes to help you realize what you think. In almost all, even the ones I strongly disagreed with, there was a kernel of truth. And it made me look more carefully at the ones I did agree more with, thinking about what was extreme about this viewpoint, and what isn’t helpful about it.

Key Notes

Emphasis mine.

“Never agree with anything the same day you hear it, because some ideas are persuasively hypnotic. Wait a few days to decide what you really think. Don’t let ideas into your head or heart without your permission.

“Indecision keeps you shallow.”

“We treat the future like a garbage dump.”

Never make a story for the things you want to forget. Let those disappear with time.”

“How you feel about anything is based on how you look back at it. Your memory is influenced by how you feel now… Give moments meaning to remember them. Take away meaning to forget.”

“Improvement is transformation.”

“Problems persist until you claim them and solve them.”

“Plans are just predictions about what you might want in the future.”

Ignore all marketing and advertising. Nobody is pushing what really matters. Friendships, nature, family, learning, community. The best things in life aren’t things.” My thoughts.

“Shallow happy serves the present. Deep happy serves the future. Shallow happy is trying to conquer the world. Deep happy is conquering yourself.”

“The world needs more boldness.”

You aren’t supposed to be easy to explain.” Reducible to salable data profiles for advertisers, or archetypes in the story someone wants to tell about you.

“You’re an ongoing event — a daily improvisation — responding to the situation of the moment.”

“Your past is not your future. Whatever happened before has nothing at all to do with what happens next… Never believe a story.” (At least not one that’s holding you back.)

“Creating is a higher form of communicating. You join the elite conversation by contributing. You reference creations from the past to make your own unique addition or combination. The dialog can span centuries.” The Long Now.

“It’s not a revolution if nobody loses… When the bad people are mad, you’re doing it right.”

How you react to situations: “Do you tend to change yourself, change the environment, or change nothing and leave?”